Minding Our Elders®
Real People, Real Emotions, Real Lessons. Give our youth-worshipping culture, the topic of this book isn't sexy, but I challenge any reader of any age with half a heart to read more than two pages and stop. You simply can't.
Carol Bradley Bursack has lovingly and perceptively gathered the stories of caregiving friends and acquaintances, mixed them with her own, and quilted together a heart-warming book that is inescapably sentimental, yet incredibly down-to-earth.The book would be a great tool for a caregivers support discussion group. It should be required reading for anyone who personally cares about or professionally serves anyone with aging parents. (That means everyone.) America is aging, and we all have a lot to learn. This is a great place to start.
.Julie Sorensen, Safe Stay
Reading of Others; Thinking of Ourselves. I really wish we'd had this book years before when we were helping Dad take care of Mom, let alone more recently when it was Dad's turn to be taken care of. There were several places where my wife and I were both tearing up over passages that took us back to some of our own experiences.I expected the book's primary objective, that of helping people cope with their own troubles by sharing the experiences of others. However, I didn't expect what has turned out to be an even bigger value to us than that important one. Perhaps it is because our experiences with our own parents are finally (whew!) behind us. But the really big value for us was that both of us kept thinking all the way through, "What about us when it's our turn to be taken care? Are we ready? Have we planned the way we should so that things will go as smoothly as possible?" Our answer was a resounding NO! We are beginning to do some serious estate planning for ourselves and will pay serious attention to educating those who will be caregivers for us when the time comes so that they are better prepared to assume the role than we were with our own parents. We have this book to thank.
Richard A. Sandin
Speaks to the heart of soul of all caregivers. I intended to 'leaf through' Minding Our Elders and ended up being pulled in to it. I read the entire book in one sitting. I have great respect for writers that can weave words together in a manner that creates not only a picture in your mind, but invokes the emotion of the heart and soul of the reader. You may never know how many hearts you touch with this book, Carol, but you will be blessed in many unforeseen ways for this contribution. It speaks to the reality of elder care issues with an honest look into the small moments that change each of us on this path.
Barbara Mascio, Senior Approved Services
Compassionate Care. Carol has written a compassionate and heart felt reflection into the needs of the soul in taking care of your parents or elderly loved ones at the end of life's journey. This book will remind you that you are not alone in this process and the journey is one that will reach into your heart and embrace your soul.
Sam Oliver, Author Path Into Healing
Anyone in the process of providing the most appropriate and loving caregiving for their beloved elderly knows just how rewarding the experience is. There are miraculous moments of shared tenderness and indescribable opportunities of healing. And yet there is another side to caregiving - it is often an emotionally exhausting and physically demanding journey. Caring for someone's declining health and well being can feel like being in the middle of an out of control emotional whirlwind. Feelings of uncertainty, guilt, resentment, stress, burnout, and overwhelm are normal occurrences.
If you are a caregiver of your elderly parents, this book offers inspiration for all those times you feel overwhelmed with the issues of taking care of elderly parents. "Minding our Elders" is a collection of heart-warming stories written by author Bursack and caregivers who share their authentically honest and exquisitely human experiences. It is practical and overflowing with empathetic truth from those who have gone through the experience themselves.
The stories contained in this transformative book provide a "portable support group," allowing the reader to feel understood, comforted, and less alone. I strongly recommend this book to anyone who is caring for an aging person. Is a great resource to help you care for your elderly without losing yourself. If you feel like you are alone and dealing with unique issues concerning your parents, please pick up a copy of this book. It will give you an invaluable resource of support and understanding to comfort you through the toughest of times.
Dr. Annette Colby, Author of "Your Highest Potential"
This book is far more than a delightfully well-written collection of inspiring stories.... The book really seems to prepare one for something one can't prepare for!!...It's quite brilliant...through a collection of vividly told stories, the reader has actually been there, ...with differing elders, personalities, needs, wishes, emotions, settings, timetables, etc.. ..all are unique, yet all are similar in that they are all trial and error on the caregivers part...uncharted waters you will just get into ...but the hope of the book (to me) is that the caregiver finds out there is no "right" way....far to many forces are at play... beyond the caregivers control...so you suck it up, do the best you can.. ..and don't fight natural events and ones desire to have done a better job. Readers are really lifted with more confidence, less guilt, and the definite feeling of not being alone. You will learn that you are not going to be perfect, but you can get the job done by doing the best you can. We can't be Carol, but we can learn from her going before us. What a friend to all caregivers. What a gift she has given us.
Skip Jones, Human Service Professional and family caregiver.
Been There--Done That. As the frazzled son of an aging mother with dementia, I found validation and comfort in Carol Bradley Bursack's exceptional book, Minding Our Elders. Eldercare is often a lonely business and one that places a profound mental and physical burden on the caregiver. Healing begins with the discovery that one is not alone. Minding Our Elders provides ample evidence that eldercaregivers have plenty of company these days.
Bursack uses a professional journalist's interview technique to compile the trials and challenges of over twenty-five caregivers who have poured out their hearts to her. There is a relaxed intimacy to her writing style that immediately engages the reader. It feels as though each of her subjects has become your own personal friend who is quietly sharing with you the private pain associated with care of their loved one.Bursack introduces each person with a description of surroundings, clothing, gestures and expression that reveals a sharp eye for detail--the kind of detail that imbues the people and their stories with humanity. Her faithful and insightful reporting of these stories, told in each caregiver's own words, has created a sensitive and well written book that is must reading for anyone facing the decline of a parent. I recommend it highly.
Bob Tell Author, Publisher, Speaker http://www.dementia-diary.com
Telling It Like It Is. I am a professional who has studied caregiving of elders. Carol's book was very well written, and reflected the same type of stories I found in the research I did on elder caregiving. This heartwarming book will help you understand the caregiving process.
Dr. Mary Ellen Erickson, Author of "Common Sense Caregiving."
A Wonderful, Inspiring book. I am a legal aid attorney and also own an online health and medical supply business. In both capacities I deal with many seniors as well as family members who care for them. This is a wonderful, inspiring book for anyone who is involved in cargiving role. When you are having a challenging day, pick up this book for support and inspiration.
D. Williams, Southwest Medical An Excellent Resource For Caregivers and Professionals.
Caregiver and Elder Support
An Excellent Resource For Caregivers and Professionals. Minding Our Elders is indeed a support group for caregivers. Bursack's personal experience shines through and makes it authentic to the core. Anyone who is close to dealing with these issues will not be able to put it down. It will give you strength, hope and guidance to do what you know you must do. It would also be an excellent text book for social work and gerontology classes.
Beth D. Walter